One of the unconscious dialogues we have is the one we evoke towards ourselves, and I assure you, if you were aware of how you talk to yourself… you would be frightened.

You know why we talk ourselves like that? Because we’ve been taught to be perfect, rigid and strict, for that same reason, there’s no possibility to make mistakes, much less to love ourselves because we must comply with certain protocol rules that prohibit us from resonating in love, ‘cause if we are wrong, then we’re clumsy and we don’t function for life; so we prefer to reprehend, humiliate and not accept ourselves before others notice, and the tease can increase.

I’m very strict with me, sometimes I don’t allow myself to fail and my cruelest punishment is not talking to myself for a few days without the possibility of connecting with Shary because she didn’t fulfill what I had planned for her at the time I said, then, guilt comes.

Only if I feel worthy to be as I am,
I can accept myself, I can be authentic,
I can be me.

Jorge Bucay

Remember when I told you one of the missions we came to experience as humans is to love ourselves? Now imagine the size of love you have for yourself if everytime that happens something you don’t like or that hurts you, your first reaction is: I’m such an idiot! And you don’t give yourself the space to understand it was just an error possibly attracted by a lack of attention, an oversight, a learning… The explanations can be endless, but we decide to keep the hook to hurt us and punish our supposed clumsiness.

Trust me, the dialogue you decide to have with you is the representation of the immense or limited self-love that you’ve decided to give to yourself, and thus, you are giving shape to your self-esteem. If you begin to realize the love you give to yourself in small or abundant portions is not good or bad, you’ll realize the love you deny to yourself is translating into the indifference or bad treatment others have towards you.

Keep in mind everything you’re looking for: a partner, work, money, understanding, acceptance, etc. It’s directly proportional to how you feel for you, because the love you decide to have and say to your heart all the time, will be materialized by you in real life.

As I always say, love’s a state of consciousness of a continuous present, meaning it’s an emotion that’s always by your side, we must only handle it with wisdom, compassion and acceptance.

Become aware of this… How many times in the morning you embrace yourself?, how often you thank to yourself be awake one more day?, how important it’s for you speak to yourself with humility? or dedicate yourself a smile?, how often you recognize, approve, accept yourself? how often say ‘today is the best day of your life’? If you answer NO to all of this, don’t worry, start practicing and you’ll see the difference.

Remember when I told you about judgment? That Universe, God, energy, etc. Is not carrying a notebook writing down what we say about others, but is aware of how you talk to yourself using others and despite the fact he doesn’t understand why your words are so hurtful, he decides to respect you and gives you those experiences that you unconsciously seek to live.

I love you could realize how you decide to express towards yourself in all the situations of your life; you would be surprised of how unfair you can be to yourself. I know how complicated it can be, because we haven’t been taught to speak to us with affection and since childhood we’ve heard: Don’t speak!, shut up!, how dumb you are! etc. All that stays with the years that turn into you.

Allow yourself to free from those attachments that are preventing you from creating the life you desire, because you, like everyone else, have the right to experience everything you’ve always wanted, just connect with that love that lives in you and let this feeling to be the whisper of the words you say to yourself every day, and that way, the changes you’re still waiting… will come.

With all my heart,
Shary ChavLó ∞