One of the greatest challenges we have as human beings is interacting with human relations, we come to the world to develop through them and to experience them with our parents, sibilings, family, friends, couple, work and of course, with ourselves.

For me, human relations come to show us the darkest and the most luminous part of each one of us; the challenge begins when we turn them into vicious circles and enter into constant conflict with others, then becoming a struggle that results endless.

Are you afraid of others?
They are your mirror.

Alejandro Jodorowsky

In many cases, relationships will take out the worst part of us because they’re a reflection of what we don’t see and deny of ourselves, I want you to know that they don’t do it to leave us permanently immobile, but they teach us to rise up, forgive, accept and love ourselves.

Lots of us have experienced stormy relationships, situations that constantly challenge us and sometimes we lose control of our lives and unconsciously we give others our personal power, making impossible to generate a change that results in the highest well of everyone involved.

For me, there are two types of relations:

Loving relations: The ones that come to bring out the best of us, they inspire us, move us, motivate us, and are always contributing.

Adictive relations: Those in which we live in crisis all the time, there’s no sense of wellness and lead us to a deceptive status of “love – hate”, turning out stormy and destructive.

I want you to understand that relations are great teachers and they come to our lives to give us a specific lesson: It doesn’t matter which one we choose, they’re destined to build us and take us to different processes of evolution that correspond to us.

Time ago, I talked you about self-love and I defined it as the purest, most compassionate, integrating love that human beings could have; I said that self-love required to see and accept ourselves the way we are, and it’s through relations that we come to prove it. Besides, self-love help us to know forgiveness and in that way we can trascend through it; allows us to recognize love for others, thus we begin to enter on much higher states of consciousness that help us to see things with more clarity and objectivity.

One of the greatest learnings relationships give us, is when we’re broken thanks to them, and we allow ourselves to live the corresponding duel; we start the transformation despite the pain we feel, taking us into a true growth, something that I call: “the more pain, the more creation you make”, I’ll give you an example: A couple that ends after many years of relationship. Their separation implies that individually and consciously they seek to build themselves, begin by changing their image, remodeling their home, giving away things, having fun and allowing themselves individual spaces they had forgotten, why does this happen? It’s simple, relationships bring us back to who we really are.

See it this way, relationships are the basis for human evolution and we’re destined to experience them, because thanks to them, today there’s a better version of what you used to be and as that transformation happens, your relations start changing by law of attraction, just be ready to release them because remember, nothing and none belongs to us, everything that has to go will do it without asking time, and despite what you feel today, someday you’ll realize that relationship left you with the most beatiful gift… yourself.

I’m with you.
Shary ChavLó ∞