Sometimes it seems we like to be abused, and put our self-love in other one’s hands, making us permissive when we face certain situations, and we start giving everything of ourselves with the only benefit to be loved.

The humiliation wound arises when the functions of the physical body develop, it happens when we learn how to adapt to the world by ourselves, nevertheless, this wound detonates when one of the parents made the child felt dirty perhaps because he or she ate something and got stained, because he or she dressed badly and the parent made feel the child feel ashamed.

The person who lives with that wound needs to feel responsible of others and that’s why his or her system will comprehend that his/her body has to be big to carry everyone, and if he or she feels that the task of being protective is not being correctly fulfilled, then will tend to feel guilty and as a punishment will seek to carry other people’s guilt.

Once in therapy, a patient told me that she had always felt under her brothers, even though she was the oldest sister, she told me that she had always believed that people passed over her; that was enough for me to detect that woman felt beneath others because she felt her mission was to carry them and be responsible of them all, so I understood, her humiliation wound was deep.

What happens with this people is that they try to satisfy others before satisfy themselves, they will do anything to feel humiliated because the mask that defines them is masochism as a method of recognition.

Others can’t make us feel guilty,
guiltiness can only proceed from our interior.

Lise Bourbeau.

We all seek to feel belonged and loved by our surrondings, and that makes us feel we must do everything to please others, no matter what we risk, as long as the others are happy.

Like I’ve always said, everyone have wounds and carry them, but you know something? It’s not about leaving them open and see how they dominate our lives, it’s about observing and transforming them from acceptance, because thanks to them we became who we are, and we’ve been able to face the world, without falling into the judicious label of what’s good or wrong; we just have to understand that as reptilian beings, we’ve learned how to defend ourselves, believing this way we’ll reach our highest good and survive, when really we must learn how to live.

If you’ve noticed this wound within you please don’t judge yourself, remember that’s part of you and it’s there to accompany you, and unconsciously, you choose the wound to transcend it, not to stay stucked.

Please, today I want you to look, recognize and love yourself and everyday from now on, try your own voice whisper you: “I’m the most beatiful and wonderful being; people respect me and honor me because I know how to give me my place and the others as well, I recognize myself as part of this life, I’m grateful for my existence because I’m part of this world, and as such, I have the divine right to experience everyday a full, lovely and joyful life, today I hug and smile at myself, because I understand that my happiness is capable to transform the world.”

I honor you,
Shary ChavLó ∞