I believe one of the biggest learnings we came to experience are the losses, as human beings we haven’t been taught what are they, and the steps we must follow to let them go.

At times, we believe everything is eternal, but things come and go in a blink of an eye, our body has an arrival and a departure time, people leave and never come back, but you know something? It’s not about the losses, it’s about the absences that are soaked with fear and don’t let us feel complete again.

There are many different events happening in the world, that are taking us into a strong transformation, attacks in different places in Europe, hurricanes in U.S.A, terrorism in the Middle East, Latinoamerica and it’s power struggles, and a few days a go an earthquake took place in Mexico City, and above all this we add the losses of brothers, sisters, parents, children, homes, pets etc., those losses combined with pain draw our reality.

Acceptance is not a resignation, but nothing makes us loose
more energy than to resist and fight against a situation
we cannot change.

Dalai Lama.

As human beings we always want to know “why”: why me? why my family? why my friends? why us? But instead of asking those kind of questions, please let’s start thinking what do we need to learn about all this as society, humanity and individuals?, in which way have we contributed to the world to recieve this kind of response?, what have we each sown to gather these crops?

Sometimes is easy for us to blame the circumstances because we have the bad habit of bring responsability and guilt together, but remember something, guilt only submit us and makes us weak, responsability empowers us to change what we need to transform and what’s under our responsability to modify.

We’ll always be exposed to loose something or someone because nothing in this world belongs to us and understanding that becomes a challenge, because we give so much power to the always and we stop appreciating today.

Like I’ve said, we are in one of the hardest process which I call collective awakening, an awakening that was and still is like a big hit we are having a hard time to accept. As humanity, sadness is embracing us but like I’ve always said, sometimes to be happy we need to stop a little bit on sadness, because happiness is a natural state, not a goal, much less a belonging.

Time ago I lost my grandmother in an unexpected way, she suffered a stroke and decided to close her eyes to wake up in another place, at the begining I was blinded by anger, then I decided pain to follow me for a couple of days, after that I understood that my grandma had to leave no matter the way she had chosen, I decided to honour the decision of her life’s process and let her go with the same gratitude and love that I felt towards her while I believed she was mine.

Please don’t try to respond those constants “why” that only hurt, be sure that those who left and you feel you lost, are somewhere else waiting for you but they are honoring your decision to stay in this marvelous experience that is to live until it’s your turn to reunite with them, so now it’s up to you to honor and respect the way they decided to end this chapter of their lives.

Everything else you got ripped off is something that can be built and eventually will come back to you, because you, are brave enough to start over, I only ask you to not reject the reality you live in, just accept it with love, because you and I were the witnesses of what has happened, and we chose to stay to participate in life with a better purpose; start living with love, compassion, integration, gratitude and freedom.

Please don’t judge those who feel sorry for losing something material or a human being, none is better or worse, what changes is the impact with which is lived and each of us have the right to absorb and live those losses as best we can assimilate and suit us.

That our learning be to understand that we are not attached to anyone or anything because today we are here and tomorrow we’ll be others, now we are with the best company that is ourselves so please don’t abandon yourself because you are essential to you, please choose that infinite love that lives in each one of us, capable to join yourself, me, nations, the world and in that way becoming one.

I’m by your hand,
Shary ChavLó ∞