Over time women have voraciously fought to have a place in the world, we have fought to have a job, a place in the family and in society so in that way, we can get a valid space in history.

I believe we as women have tried to build ourselves through nonexistent and unreachable concepts, we’ve been told that women have to be: beatiful, extremely thin or hot, sexy without being too smart, so in that way we can fit in the classifications that result acceptable, thus, we can be attractive for a man and of course, fit in the world that instead of accepting you the way you are, condemns you for not looking like it orders, and all that, enslave you under concepts we follow without even notice that everything we have told isn’t written, much less is the truth we must follow to live a happy life, so please ask yourself: What’s to be beatiful for you?, what’s to be hot for you?, what’s to be sexy for you? Remember that the most important thing is what you believe about yourself, without forgetting that your essence is the one that’ll prevail beyond the folds of your body.

I believe that the biggest fight women have to overcome, is the fight against all those beliefs we have been lead to accept without even thinking on them, beliefs that are based on: we can’t be as successful as men, we are the weak sex, we are made to raise and take care of the children or the belief that we are a sexual object the others can dispose of, where only a “beatiful” woman is worthy and overall, we have to stop believing that the God that rules the earth is a human in a man’s body, because God doesn’t choose a sex to love you because it’s nature is to create, not to divide.

“Beauty starts with
the decision to be yourself.”

Coco Chanel.

I find wonderful that women seek to empower themselves, but I believe we’re doing it in the wrong direction, because we keep empowering ourselves through a masculine role oriented by a highly agressive energy and that, prevents us from connecting with our own femenine side, a place that has been massacred for many years, where our unconscious believes that being a woman is a danger and for some cultures a curse, all that causes we leave aside our own nature and keep that masculine fight for an equality that seems is never going to come.

This equality will be materialized when we attract it with our own example, because sometimes most of the injustices are committed between our own gender; because among us it’s harder the critic towards the woman who has overweight, are hurtful the words for the woman who decides to experiment her sexuality, it’s more hurtful the judgment against the woman who decides to be alone and all that stabbing unfortunately happens among ourselves, then, how are we going to achieve that equality before others if it doesn’t exist among us?

I understand why our battle continues in a desperate call to be recognized as a valuable gender, but the weapons we’re choosing sometimes are not the best, just remember that’s not about seeing the man as the enemy guilty of everything; if we really make consciousness where does all that anger come from, we’ll realize the emotion that lives within us is an accumulated feeling that has chased us for generations because we carry with the memories of all the women who were raped, murdered, burned, beaten and the ones who felt they were not valuable enough and those facts, have remained in the colective unconscious of this earth, therefore, I believe our anger is not directed to the opposite sex but to ourselves for still being so permissive.

Please start with a sincere reconciliation with our gender and take responsability for it; moreover, let’s forgive all those ancestral patterns we keep attracting, because until we don’t make consciousness of our own unconscious process, we’ll keep materializing situations that remind us we are not empowered but instead we’re upset for that physical, psychological and emotional violence, and remember something, anger translated into violence only brings more of the same, therefore, that attitude will attract to our lifes more people or experiences that teach us in unlovely ways which are still our wounds so we can finally have the courage to forgive and close them, thus, we can be able to understand we are an essential and important part of this world and by recognizing that as our absolute truth then yes, we’ll take the ownership of our place.

I want to tell you that I find thrilling you decide to empower yourself but if you do it according to what the others say then, your own power will be given to them and it’ll be and endless story, so when you really learn to define yourself from who you are and what you want all your environment will change in your best benefit and of course, in benefit of your entire gender.

Please don’t forget your wonderful and unique female energy because thanks to it you create, so walk with it without forgetting your masculine energy that helps you to have the will to make everything possible, remember every moment you are special, unrepeatable, beatiful, a warrior, and if you are here it’s because you have the power to recognize yourself as a woman who’s brave, valuable and enough.

Thank you woman,
Shary ChavLó ∞