When we go to a job interview we have to deliver a curriculum which exposes our experience, knowledge, objectives but none of that says who we really are; maybe some questions that the interviewer makes us about our weaknesses, strenghts and hobbies but, does that define us completely?

Lately I’ve talked you about the unconscious system we live in; a system that’s far from our self-good because we’ve been lead to think that we were created to follow the dreams of others; where we have to work for money to feel free but in the end, we become it’s faithful slaves. And in all of that, where are you?

What we believe about ourselves
and life, becomes our truth.

Louise L. Hay.

Remember that we are in a society that rarely inspires us to be ourselves but ironically forces us to be completely different from whom we really want to be and that makes our authentic “I” to be rejected and forgotten because it’s more important to look for the others acceptance to feel someone, thus fit in the world you live in and the one you’ll possibly go without understanding who you were.

Have you ever stopped for a moment in your life and asked yourself: Who am I? Please don’t focus on answers such as: “I’m good person”, “nice”, “funny”, “kind”, “caring”, “inteligent”, “hard working” etc. Because all those answers are only characteristics that you impose to yourself so others can recognize you as someone valuable. It’s much better if you tell me, who’s that “I” that you’re still hiding?

I from the past: If you are one of the persons who lives eternally in the causes of what it was and what could have been, then, you are a “stucked I” in a moment of your life that is immovable; therefore, you are an “I” who forbbids to grow up and doesn’t understand the reasons of everything you passed through. Remember that the things you’ve lived, you chose them according to your resonance and level of consciousness but if you keep faithful to your past conditions, your “I” will be defined for what happened in the past because you abandoned yourself in the yesterday’s chest, and that will make you never feel as a “present I”.

I from the future: If you are someone who’s always visualizing the tomorrow, then your “I” isn’t living the reality the way it is, and lives immersed in the ilusion of the soon; then, you’re becoming in an “nonexistent I” who keeps flying in the air; I believe it’s amazing you have plans but, are you sowing what you want to harvest in the future that hasn’t arrived yet? If not, start by landing your “I” so you can co-create the fate you want and not the one you someday dreamed of. In that way you’ll be a “realized I”.

Narcissistic I: I find wonderful that you recognize yourself for all the steps you have given but if your achievements are the base of your existence then, your “I” is routed to failure, because you are becoming a “selfish I” who wants to be valued for what you have instead of being valued for who you are; an “I” that feeds from the external recognition that prevents you from growing as a “lovely I”; and in the future, you’ll attract people with the same dysfunction as you and you’ll live your world through banalities that will push you away from your authentic “I am”

Frustrated I: This “I” who always says that will do but instead remains seated to wait for things to happen, and as time goes by and see that nothing is done as you want then, your “I” turns in an “angry I” the one who blames life and puts in the others hands the frustration that feels because you need to get free from everything you haven’t wanted to be responsible of, among that, your goals, yearns, dreams, experiences etc., and that, takes you away from your own “happy I”.

Wounded I: Life’s amazing but that doesn’t mean there won’t be chapters that challenge us or hurt us, it doesn’t matter what’s around you, in the end, we are all sensitive humans and the fact that you don’t allow your “I” to express, can turn you into an eternally “sad I”. All of us in one point of our lives have experienced a “wounded I” but if we don’t heal it and take it out of it’s own painfulness, you’ll live there and will get used to feel like that. It’s until we start attending and healing ourselves, that we can finally become a “joyful I”.

 Faithless I: This kind of “I” is the one that focus on all the limitations that has against itself and uses phrases such as: “I can’t, I don’t believe, I’m not worthy,” and that, becomes into: “I don’t deserve”. This impedes you from connecting with your authentic “I trust”.

I want you to understand that one of the most powerful words you can tell to yourself is “I am” but if you don’t stop identifying yourself with a “lacking I” then you’ll see yourself that way, the same as the others around you and in that same sense you’ll experience your reality, and by consequence this will be your truth; thus, stop identifying with a “fake I” because the true “I” that you deny in yourself, will follow you for the rest of your life until you integrate, accept and love it, because that’s the one you came to experience not as a punishment but as a proof of strenght and faith.

From now on do the exercise to transform all those limiting “I’s” into: I can, I have, I believe, I am, I love, ‘cause in that way you’ll return to your true state, the one you left forgotten years ago because you preferred to enter in conditions that looked more attractive but turned out to be very different; so from now on you’ll know which “I” you’re giving power to.

 Beyond all those marvelous characteristics that I’m sure you have, understand that your essence is to be someone exceptional from the moment you appeared in this world, because your true “I” comes from your soul, someone you’ve neglected because you don’t see it. However, your soul’s the one who needs more of your attention and as you give yourself the benefit of listening to that “I am”, you’ll transform it in it’s best state that’s a “complete-self”.

You are amazing,
Shary ChavLó ∞