Lately I’ve talked you about the femenine conditionings women have to face day by day and along our story we’ve believed that men have better benefits than us, but let me tell you that men the same as women have fake conditionings that impede them from living in their highest good.

Remember that all of us belong to a story that’s based on an unconscious information from your lineage; in this case it can come from your father and your grandfather, and you have been the universal inheritor and by consequence it’ll be you who will distribute that to the next generations; this information consists in you being the provider and the man who has to be attended by a woman while you bring the food to the table.

Have in mind those beliefs also come from your collective unconscious where men were the ones who had to go hunting and fought in the wars or in the revolutions because your survival instinct was to be the defender of the territory, possibly your greatgrandfather or grandfather lived those experiences and with that true your father was begotten so as you.

I believe one of the most difficult conditionings men have is that during your childhood you’ve been lead to believe that men don’t cry because you have to be “strong men” before being humans; the women the same as men had a previous design which consists in following a profession that fed your grandfather, your father and now you are the one who’s next, but have you ever asked yourself: Is this what I want to do with my life?

Possibly in your unconscious mind are added the words of your mother who have told you that she doesn’t want you to be alone and that she would like to see you with a couple who can make you happy, but do you feel worthy enough to be with someone?, Are you feeling alone?, Your happiness is incomplete? Because if those are your intentions to find a couple then you will find the fears of your mother instead of a person who can contribute you.

All men are equal; it’s not the birth but virtue
that makes the difference.

Voltaire.

A lot of men see women as the possible mother of their children, others as the partner of their lives, some more, as the human being with the gift of giving life, others as the perfect companion; it doesn’t matter the conscious concept you have about women; most of the occasions you end up finding your dysfunctions in that person who’s showing you, the affective deficiencies you didn’t receive from your mother and you’re now becoming your father, because that information secretly lives in your unconscious.

What I want to tell you with this is that you are also carrying with memories about certain information that resides in the earth, the one that sees men as the alpha male owner of thousands of women or the one that sees men as the responsible of the rough work of the house; maybe the man who works while his woman stays at home taking care of the children; that information or system is called patriarchy or a male chauvinism disguised of matriarchy where women have a very strong masculine energy and you as man unconsciously compete with them or prefer to stay under the care of a woman who covers your emotional lackings, the ones you were forbidden to feel because you were the only man left so you had to take care of the women in the house.

The same as us, it has been impossible for you to reconcile with your gender; on our part, we’re still angry for the injustices we have lived over time and on your part, the low integration of your femenine energy has prevented you from believing in your power of creativity labeling it as homosexual, because many of you are still thinking as the paleolithic[1] man who’s here only to satisfy his vital needs. I repeat, all that is lead by a collective unconscious that men and women share and it’s time to make peace with it in order to create new systems that take us to the integration of the two genders so we can generate convenient changes for our evolution. 

All those conditionings were carried on your gradfather’s and your father’s shoulders and today you unwittingly carry them.

Men in love: According to studies men first need to feel physically attracted with a woman so they can fall in love with her, due to men give more relevance to their visual information; nevertheless, I want you to know that if you don’t allow yourself to be aware of your own dysfuctions about love matters you’ll keep blaming “the femenine intensity” instead of accepting that the situations you are experiencing come from the projections of your unconscious that has lead you to attract the same type of woman.

Men in work: If your couple has a better job than you how wonderful is you’re next to an empowered woman! Someone who will make you grow, don’t think she’ll decrease you because she’s taking away your masculine power; that only speaks about your insecurities; if your boss is a woman and that confronts you then ask yourself; what kind of conflicts do I have with the women in my life that I can’t accept a woman to be upon me?

Men in family: Remember that one of your unconscious systems is believing that women have to stay at home while you work hard, nevertheless, your childdren need the attention of their father because thanks to him they empower themselves in life, thus, you’ll avoid they consume toxic substances in their adolescense as an archetype of an absent father.

Femenine men: Possibly you were born in a male chauvinist system disguised as a matriarchy or maybe with a father who abandoned you, that made you a not empowered man and today, you keep looking for controller and dominant couples who make you feel protected, and that will be the satisfaction of your program that’s making you believe you’re still in the arms of your mommy; next to someone with a dominant gene like the one you would have liked to have from your father.  

Childish men: Your mom must have been a very condescending woman because she fulfilled each one of your whims and maybe she overprotected you so much that being without her causes you insecurity and that, turns you into an emotional blackmailer codependent of her and instead of finding a couple you’ll have an incestuous relationship with a woman who looks just like her, therefore, you won’t live a free relationship and that will impede your true growth.

Chauvinist men: You have a system where you believe that women are the females who work for two things: have children and take care of the household chores; remember that human beings look for their opposite polarity, so you’ll possibly attract women completely independent who will confont you very much and that will drive you to domestic violence because you’re not allowing to reconcile with yourself nor with your system.

Men in sex: One of the biggest insecurities some men have is related to the size of their penis, that’s just a conditioning you have decided to believe in and has stopped you to look and accept yourself the way you are; because if you don’t do that, you’ll bring that insecurity in your sexual life added to a possibly premature ejaculation that’s related to the conflicts you’re still having with your father; therefore, your value doesn’t consist in the size of your masculine member but on who you are and in that way, you’ll attract the correct woman.  

Men also have been built under worthless beliefs lack of value, the ones that are leaving you in wrong concepts, and until you don’t be aware of those dysfunctions it will be impossible for all of you to live in balance and in congruence with your gender.

Please choose to reconcile with those archaic memories because if you keep acting from your unconscious, your most challenging mirrors will be the couples you choose and you’ll start educating under an impractical system where women wear pink and men blue; remember that beyond being a man you are a human being, someone who feels, thinks and experiments, and you as everyone else deserve to build a life through peace, love and harmony.

You’re a wonderful man,
Shary ChavLó ∞

[1] https://www.britannica.com/event/Paleolithic-Period