Once I told you that for me, relationships are the base of human evolution, because thanks to them we find the darkest and the most luminous part that lives within us.

I’ve told you several times that according to our vibration level we attract people and situations to our life thanks to the fidelity we feel for those dysfunctional patterns and programs to which we belong.

Also I’ve told you human beings are used to look for the answers outside of them, because as humans we believe we live separated from everything and what’s in the outside is what there is to blame, what makes us suffer, what’s wrong and we choose to become the victims of the consequences and of course of the others.

The person that’s not in peace with itself,
will be the one in war with the whole world.

Mahatma Gandhi.

I want to tell you we’ll always be the cause that originates an effect on the outside, but that doesn’t mean the answer is in the exterior, the answer involves to take a look at yourself and know why you’re manifesting those confrontations about something you call problem.

I ask you to be conscious that all the people you had come across in your life no matter if you’ve been with them a couple of minutes, days or years, all of them are the reflection of yourself, remember that one of the main purposes on this earth is to find and to know ourselves, and the best way to do it is looking at the others, and in that way we’ll be able to look at onself..

“What confronts you is within you”, everything we hate about the other is something that lives within us but we haven’t given ourselves the permission to recognize, because we constantly project that shadow that is nourished by that ego who feels small compared to the others and has the need to look at himself in all the situations he’s facing..

Why do we use the others as mirrors? The others help us to show us everything that lives in our mind that became our truth, for example: when we blame the other is because we’re are projecting the fault we feel towards ourselves, when we believe the others envy us it’s because in them I’m projecting the envy I feel or that I’ve felt for others but I don’t dare myself to recognize that emotion because we qualify those emotions as “bad”, when you see the other and feel confronted for his/her words and actions, it’s because everything you see and feel is what you deny in yourself and you haven’t wanted to solve in you.

Long time ago I had an experience with the person I was living, he didn’t talk to me for several months while we were living together, of course I lived it as an abandonment and I constantly looked for the answers on him and continually judged his actions, of course I don’t justify him, in the end, he has his own programs he chose to manifest with me, but I realized he only showed me an indifference I felt for myself because I chose to abandon me in that situation, he just taught me the absences I was covering that he couldn’t fulfill, because that wasn’t his responsability, it was mine.

Last week I talked you on how to get the perfect couple, I remember telling you that if you wanted to fall in love instead of loving someone, that’s the point where we unconsciously reflect in the other, because falling in love represents that our consciousness is overshadowed by the need, because have a crush is focused on the use of strategies based on the lacking to cover something we didn’t have, because we haven’t been loving enough with ourselves to attend those shortcomings; in that way we use the other as a self-mirror so in that way, that person shows us which part of us has to be healed and to identify in which parts we’re not loving ourselves.

What I’m trying to say with all of this, is that while you don’t achieve to look compassionately at yourself understanding that what you see in the others is only your internal reflection, you won’t get rid of the judgment you live using the others, when in reality is that judgment you give to yourself and you’ll use the others as your target for tragedies, revenge, guilt and resentment.

I want you to know we never cease to know ourselves because we’re destinated to interrelate, and we attract all those people in an unconscious way with the benefit of healing each other, what I can say is that your relationships will turn much harmonious because you have come to understand what bothered you about the other is something you already know is within you, and finally, you reconcile, understand, hug, accept and love yourself…and it’s here when you comprehend that everything lives united to you.

From now on remember that when you look at the other you’re looking at yourself, and when the other confronts you, remember that he/she the same as you is healing by using you, because all those wounds that both have done to each other, already existed in you, in that way you both came to remind each other that’s time to heal and transcend those patterns with the purpose of returning to your center, a place that only lives in yourself.

I see you, I see myself, thank you,
Shary ChavLó ∞