The world is facing changes which are usually impossible to understand; this incomprehension has made us adapt to a Universe that runs at a speed that’s perceived unattainable and in that speed, we believe that time is an insufficient tool. 

All the people in the world is moved by the same cultural condition that’s the thought of being perfect that make us train our mind to be alert of our insecurities, so that in the moment they show up, we can escape from them, and the way we normally do it, is through criticism, judgement, comparison, complaint and our own projections.  

Why are we insecure? Because for the collective in which you’re adapted, no matter what you do, it won’t ever be enough; this means that you won’t be good enough to be with someone; you won’t be smart enough; you won’t be beautiful enough; you won´t be wealthy enough, and in that insufficiency you think you are, you’ll look to complete yourself with situations or people who reflect how insecure you feel. 

One of the necessary states to experience in life is the vulnerability, that in its very essence, is the place where your fears reside and in turn, it’s the instant where you can find yourself; nonetheless, we constantly deny to live this state because we believe that being vulnerable is the same as being weak and remember that for the programmed mind, weakness resembles to rejectment that’s embraced by humiliation, conditioned by injustice and represented by control; in short, being weak makes us feel unworthy, therefore, unworthy of love. 

“Accepting our vulnerability rather than trying to hide it is the best way to adapt to the reality.”

David Viscott.

We’ve been in the earth for a while, this means that we have been and are still being programmed with the beliefs of the different systems to which we feel the need to belong; lots of those systems have prepared us to separate ourselves from our negative emotions because we have been lead to believe that’s wrong feeling them; we have been lead to think that sadness can be turned off with strength; we have been told that crying is synonymous of shame and we have repressed anger to justify it with violence. 

Most of that emotional repression  was in charge of your parents who asked you not to cry when you felt sad, they did this because it was difficult for them to connect with something they were also denied; by force they asked you not to be angry because they didn’t know how to deal with a state that confronted them; they asked you to be well behaved because they didn’t need to feel vulnerability while they were educating you. 

Accepting our vulnerability is the starting point to recognize who we are because when we’re in that process which faces us with our insecurities; vulnerability allows us to take them with compassion and help us to comfort the fear we feel related to what we’re experiencing. 

Have in mind that our insecurities are a form of adaptation we use as a method of defense in order to build an identity; nonetheless, the complexity about our insecurities is that they condition us to exist inside a routine life because they abandon us in the belief that change is outside us; they enslave us believing that the other belong to us;  they make us believe that the more inflexible we are, the higher the level of perfectionism we’ll achieve; they make us feel that we can control everything and everybody with our opinions and positionings.

In order to become aware of your insecurities, allow yourself to discover the vulnerability of your arrogance, so it can teach you how to connect with others from equality; allow yourself to attend the vulnerability of your control, so it can teach you to accept that you don’t know everything; allow yourself to manifest vulnerability in your perfectionism, so it can teach you how to forgive yourself for not fitting in the  inaccessible standards; allow yourself to embrace the vulnerability your fears are showing you, so it can teach you how to surrender to the things you don’t know; allow yourself to accept the vulnerability the loneliness causes, so it can teach you that the need you have to be next to someone is just an illusion of your mind; allow yourself to reconcile with the vulnerability caused by the abandonment, so it can teach you how to live detached from everything; allow yourself to feel the vulnerability caused by the lacking of, so it can teach you that your true nature is to be abundant; allow yourself to see the vulnerability related to your future, so it can teach you to trust in the uncertainty of tomorrow; just allow that vulnerability teaches you to find yourself so you don’t have to act from a shadow that you think is protecting you. 

Let your vulnerability impulses you to give up to your suffering that’s nourishing  your pain, give up to your need of being with any kind of couple as long as you have one, give up to the insecurities the outside is causing you, give up to the inflexibility that’s preventing you to see things clearly, give up to the doubts that are keeping you attached to an immovable state, give up to the pride that instead of making you stronger is weakening you; I wish that your vulnerability makes you to give up to everything that takes you away from yourself because when you welcome vulnerability into your life; you’ll finally achieve to create everything from unity. 

Your life will bring thousands of experiences; from which you should learn, so when you’re ready, you can let go what no longer adds anything positive to your life; don’t allow that your fear of being vulnerable stops you from accepting yourself the way you are, because inside of you there’s a person who doubts, someone who’s afraid, someone who’s sad, someone who feels that s/he can’t, someone who thinks that will be lonely forever, someone who feels that s/he is not worthy enough, someone who has no faith because you have stopped believing in yourself, someone who’s afraid of loneliness that’s why s/he turns codependent, accepting all this doesn’t make you a bad or a good person, just makes you human; but the fact of denying yourself to the vulnerability means you’re rejecting one more experience of your being and there’s nothing more dangerous than becoming your own enemy through the dissociation you provoke to yourself; grant yourself the opportunity of feeling vulnerable to the things that aren’t pleasant in your life, because accepting and feeling your present moment the way it is, it’s allowing life to take the control; while you, become free. 

You’re more than enough, Shary  ChavLó ∞