Maybe you remember that when you were a child and someone gave you a present, your parents used to tell you: How do you say? And your response was based on the unconscious programming you had around the words please and thank you; ‘cause you were conditioned to only be thankful when you receive.

Gratitude comes from a state of grace which makes us recognize that what’s essential in life has no cost, and you can only find grace in yourself and when you know how to resonate in it, by law of resonance, life will give you more opportunities to be thankful for; also gratitude is not conditioned to the situations nor to the treatment the others give you ‘cause you would be conditioning yourself through your own judgment, which allows you to give, only when the others give you what you believe is correct. 

“Of all the attitudes we can acquire surely the attitude of gratitude is the most important and by far the most life changing.”

Zig Ziglar.

Feeling grateful means recognizing and accepting the place where life is putting you and flow in it without resisting to live the circumstances, feeling gratitude has nothing to do with having everything nor to the achievements you get; gratitude is the quality with which you dispose yourself to observe everything around you and give the opportunity to surrender before the experiences you can’t control. 

When we allow ourselves to connect with gratitude we reach the highest point we can achieve as human  beings, ‘cause gratitude is the moment where you find yourself vibrating at the same frequency as the divinity you’re connecting with; but what does this mean? In the moment you decide to resonate with your internal grace, it’s because you’re giving it the same value that the Divinity, Universe or creative energy grants you for the simple fact of existing. 

Instead when we decide to be ungrateful, our vibration turns heavy and that’s the moment when the power of the mind tells us: “you can’t”, “everything’s wrong”, “that person doesn’t love you”, it’s impossible”, “the others are mistaken”, “I’m always right”, “you’ll be alone forever”, “you’re crazy”, “nobody is going to love you”, “happiness is the goal”, “God doesn’t exist”, “there isn’t enough” etc., because when we attend the mind that’s at the service of the fear, that gratitude loses its place inside of you. Our power of gratitude is directly related to the concept we have about merit; this means, if we feel unworthy of giving, hardly it’ll be an effect which implies receiving and this automatically makes us reject all sense of abundance.  

Once I felt far away from gratitude and I allowed myself to feel that way with my judgements telling me: “Shary you are so ungrateful, you have so much to be thankful for” so I didn’t listened to my mind and allowed myself to feel the ungratefulness in which I was vibrating; I remember that day I was at the gym and when I started sneezing and the people around me didn’t say “bless you”; of course my judicious ego said: “oh, they are so rude” that was the time when I became aware and told myself: why do people has to bless me when I don’t want to be thankful for anything? Also I understood that gratitude is something you choose to manifest in every place and on every moment. 

Gratitude in your work: Maybe it happens to you that your job doesn’t satisfy you, the environment is heavy and your salary is far away from what you desire; you have two options here: keep complaining and stay there in order to attract the same situation or be thankful that life’s showing you the resonance you’re vibrating in and it’s giving you the opportunity to make changes that take you out from your confort zone and take you away from those beliefs you have of not valuing yourself. 

Gratitude with your couple: Maybe your passing through a situation where you and your partner are not understanding each other lately, this experience is teaching you both the things you need to heal about yourselves, so be thankful that both of you are using each other to reflect your beliefs and unconscious dysfunctionalities; in case you’re living any type of abuse from your partner, he/she is becoming your teacher who’s teaching you to establish limits, so be thankful with him or her  because through his/her aggressions he/she is making you reconcile yourself and with your self-love; if you don’t have a couple and you think you need one, it’s better that you give thanks to the loneliness that’s showing you the value you’re giving to your self-company where you believe that without the other you’re alone, so possibly it’s time that you start respecting your presence as valuable and complete. 

Gratitude and abundance: The belief of being abundant doesn’t rely on the amount you have in a bank account; the abundance is a thought with which we choose to manifest everything that happens in our life; if you have noticed that there’s economic lacking, poverty, lack of health, destructive relationships, broken families or broken environments in your life, then, be thankful that life’s giving you the option to change the perception you have in relation to everything and in that way, you can transform your limiting thoughts into abundant ones. 

Gratitude and your relationships: By human nature we need of our relationships to connect with love and empathy; therefore, be thankful to the people who has been with you all your life and those who have had a small participation in it, have shown you what your dual resonance is capable of doing, that’s helping you to build or destroy yourself. 

Gratitude and health: When you feel good, you give as a fact that you’ll be healthy forever, but when the opposite happens, you reject the symptom and you demand an answer to the question: why me?  The answer is simple, because you choose to experience something that challenges you so you can learn how to feel worthy of taking care of yourself thus, be thankful that your wellness doesn’t cost anything but it costing you peace. 

I want to tell you that life’s a balance of giving and receiving but in order to receive we need to give because that balance has an order that starts from our capacity to giving without attaching to anything; this means that if we keep comfortably adapted to a world that lives in the tomorrow and that only has taught us to follow the ambition but no the mission; then we’’ll be far away from connecting with the grace ‘cause we give more importance to be accepted, recognized and loved by the others because our belief of merit is connected with the ego but no with the gratitude. 

Although life’s for free, symbolically we have put it a cost, what’s best about this paradox is that we have the freedom to put the price on it; so before you judge what you’re living, be thankful that you have enough tools to connect with being–well because even though you don’t see it, you have accumulated so much experience that’s built from all those learnings that’ll help you to get out of that place you think has no way out and that you’re observing from sacrifice; I really hope that it’ll be the gratitude what joins you for the rest of your days, because when the only thing left is to be grateful for what you have, what you’re and what you can, you’ll achieve to feel worthy of having abundance in every area of your life,  and that will be the point, when you confirm by yourself that you’re capable of having everything because you feel worthy of receiving what corresponds to you by natural right. 

Thanks for reading me, Shary ChavLó ∞