A lot of people describe life as wonderful, others say it’s very difficult; some people are against it because they haven’t got what they wished for, and many others decide to interrupt their lives ‘cause they don’t feel satisfied with it; I’ve always defined life as one of the most complex and unexpected journeys to interpret and experience.

Possibly your life has been normal according to “acceptable” standards, maybe you come from a family who gave you enough love and sustenance so you could have a life molded to your needs, perhaps you have your own family, a stable employment and you feel in peace with everything you’re experiencing; or possibly, you have a life that it’s far away from being approved for you. 

One of the things that have never ceased to surprise me, it’s when I see homeless people and what I’ve always asked myself when I watch them is: what kind of decisions do you have to make in your life to end that way? Maybe some people give them money to feel they’re doing something for them; others don’t even notice them ‘cause for them it’s normal to see people who are less fortunate than them; I don’t know what you think, but when I see them, I feel as one of them because those who live on the streets and take shelter under a bridge have the same capacity of any human being to live happy or to be completely destroyed; this means that any of us can reach places filled with love and others which defeat us completely; the difference is that some people stand up and move forward by themselves and others wait to be helped in order to stand up and continue. 

What’s the free will? It’s the power we all have in order to decide what do we want to experience without being attached to pressures, needs or limitations; nevertheless, our power of decision seem limited by the education our parents gave us in which not all the time we had the authority to decide nor did we have the right to say no when they gave us an order; those learning patterns determine our behavior and change our vision of freedom to one conditioned to the value of others.  

“There’s no road to freedom, freedom is the road.”

Mahatma Ghandi.

Remember that we have been strongly programmed to believe that everything that benefits us can only be found outside of us; we have been lead to believe that we can only be loved by a couple; we have been informed that happiness is a goal we have to reach; we have been told to give more power to what we have instead of who we are; we have been educated to not know how to deal with frustration, sadness and anger, but what we have been taught is that the others are guilty of our suffering and this has encouraged us to blame them and in that way, we use our free will through the learned victimization.  

Consider that separating ourselves from our family, social and culture conditions means going against a tide that subliminally threatens us saying that in the case we abandon it, we’re taking the risk of staying alone, loveless and in the oblivion; therefore, by decision, we choose to stay in an hypnotic program that makes us want, need and lack only to be enslaved in a consumption that impoverishes us; with the story that we need all that to feel free. 

Connect with our freedom requires our awareness and take responsability of our decisions; this means we have to stop seeing ourselves as the victims in order to become the creators of everything that’s happening around us; thus, observe with humility and accept wisely that what we’re living is the result of our mistakes, but the complicated part of this, is that we don’t allow ourselves to live and accept them, due to those unconscious programming of being perfect and better than anyone. 

I want you to know that if you’re in that situation it’s because you’re deciding it ‘cause you’re using your beautiful freedom to stay inside a circle that you don’t want to close because you’re more worried about your past than you’re about your present; if you’re with a couple who’s aggressive it’s because you’ve conditioned your freedom making yourself believe that’s the love you deserve; if you are in a job that doesn’t benefit you anymore, it’s because you’re using your power of choice to stay there, telling yourself a story that you can’t quit ‘cause the situation outside is very difficult; if you’re pregnant or you can’t be, don’t blame God making yourself believe that it was his/her will, it was your freedom who decided to create life and if you can’t get pregnant maybe one part of you isn’t ready to be a mother; if you have a disease don’t ask, why me? Because life is the materialization of the causes you decide to sow in order to obtain a harvest; therefore, your health is your responsability; if your’re passing through difficult economic times it’s because you’re more identified with your limiting beliefs instead of transforming and educating your mind to think with abundance; if the world is like that, it’s not for the punishment of your God, it’s because with everyone’s freedom we have made this planet an uninhabitable home; remember that the best gift the Divinity, God, the Universe or the creation gave you was the freedom you have so you can decide what do you want to experience; therefore, reduce the complaint and feel free to abandon the place you wanted to enter due to your need of belonging. 

Use your free will to respect the freedom of others without submiting their will just because you don’t accept them the way they are ‘cause you want to transform them your own way; use your freedom to get out of your conditionings that make you choose the same experiences full of pain, anguish and suffering; exercise your power to be free and take responsability of your own causes before you blame, offend, manipulate, hate and violate the rights of others; likewise, have the freedom to set some bounderies when you feel you’re not being treated with respect because saying “no”, will also set you free; connect with your free will in order to choose wisely what you want to live; your freedom is the only thing that’s going to determine the shape of your fate ‘cause you’re the only one who’s authorized to change it or leave it the same, with the excuse that this is the life you were given to experience. 

Be free, Shary ChavLó ∞