One of my biggest weaknesses is eating sweet bread with a hot latte, for me, it’s like the glory itself, and even when I try not to eat it everyday, when I do, it’s something I definitely enjoy.

Long time ago I became a bio-decoder and in that learning process, I realized of those unconscious programs we have as human beings, and all those experiences we pass through have a reason to be it’s just that we don’t give enough time to get in touch with ourselves and understand our own dysfunctions.

My mother was always a very hard-working woman, it was almost impossible for her to be with my sister and myself because of her working hours; remember when we are children our primary contact with love comes from our mother; for that reason a child will always seek to be loved: those absenses of my mother were without any intention to hurt me, but generated in me that I perceived her as a distant and a cold mom.

Later I understood that my desire to drink hot lattes it’s because of that unconscious desire of wanting my mother to be warmer with me, because milk is the archetype[1] of our mother.

On the other hand, my father had the tradition of having sweet bread and a cup of tea with his family since he was a child; of course, that information stayed in the biological system of my progenitor and that was inherited in my DNA, therefore, eating sweet bread and tea it’s something that my father transports to his moments of joy, union and happiness, the same happens with me every time I eat it, this is because there’s an emotional memory behind every food.

According to studies, many of the food we consume have certain substances that serve as enhancers that make the food addictive, that’s why the rates of obesity in the world are increasing; the question is: which are the emotional conflicts on each person that they need certain type of food, neglecting their bodies?

Everything we silent becomes a symptom.

Dr. Salomón Sellam.

If you’ve noticed I’m very insitent on talking about consciousness because our awareness connects us with the real causes of the many effects we don’t see, so I ask you that together we make acts that involve this consciousness by asking: why have I decided to fill my body with fat or water if my body wasn’t like this before?, why have I had overweight since childhood, when children have no conflicts with life? If your answers are: “because I got pregnant and stayed like this after my children”, because I neglected my body and got sick”, “It’s by inheritance” then, we’re not generating the true conscious process that‘s going to take us to the real answers, instead, we’re dialoguing with our own beliefs.

I want you to understand our body is going to talk to us and will inform us that there’s a problem we haven’t wanted to solve and our body loves us very much that he will do everything to protect us and will look for possible biological defenses so in that way, we can be able to listen to him, and even more because in this learned world we’re here to survive and not to live and that makes our body be the appropiate weapon to that survival.

Remember that fat is a substance that helps your body to generate energy and water brings him security because it helps him to eliminate all the toxins, now if we see it this way, when our body generates fat it’s because it needs energy but: why? Have in mind that everything you live and don’t allow yourself to feel, your body will keep it as a protection and will generate extra fat, because uncounsciously your body will believe that needs energy to defend from a experience that could be generated by: a locked duel, an abandonment, an abuse, a separation, a shock or simply because your parents didn’t stop calling you my “chubby son/daughter”. Remember there’s a wide range of conflicts holding any given symptom, thus, those situations possibly generate several conflicts in you and today, the best biological solution of your body is to ‘get wider’ so it can feel he’s being seen.

Let me mention you that according to studies, children are generating obesity at a very early age, something that I find truly alarming; do you remember when we talked about family loyalties? I told you that inside our family tree are many patterns that get repeated for generations and the repairing member is the one who carries that memory. So if you are parent stop believing that your children have overweight by heritage or because they love to eat. Remember they don’t have any conflict to solve because there’s nothing that distress them and their thoughts don’t live in the future, so if you have children with overweight, stop calling them with derogatory nicknames refering to their fatness because that will remain in their memory; allow them to cry the duels of his/her losses so s/he doesn’t keep that pain in his/her body and always talk to them with love so they don’t look for love in the sweetest food and before you criticize them and literally make s/he eat your words, better dispose yourself to investigate why your child carries with the memory of some family member. Stop rejecting your child, because that will generate self-rejectment on him/her, causing that s/he will be rejected by his/her environtment, and that rejectment will take him/her to live with a possible morbid obesity.  

One of my theories is that many children are suffering overweight nowadays because their biological programming comes from turning children into premature adults, because according to the beliefs and experiences of their parents, they prepare their children to face a world full of insecurities and danger, therefore, they’ll need energy or fat to run and defend themselves.

Please if you see people with overweight or obesity before judging them, think about the causes s/he has passed through to mistreat his/her body like that, because I can assure you that his or her story can result from a rapist father or a deep abandonment from their parents and those wounds cost a lot to be healed and maybe they never do.

If you are a person with overweight please don’t suffer, listen to your body and ask him: why does it need more food than it can process? And if your answer is ‘because you love all the food and you can’t stop eating’, then which are the empty spaces you’re trying to fill with food? In that way, you’ll understand all those experiences you’ve prevented yourself to live and have decided to store in your body, likewise, stop rejecting how you look because your body, is the tool you chose to be here so it deserves you treat it with respect, the same your body has given to you while you have decided to neglect it, and without even matter how it looks, embrace it, please be in contact with yourself and start by accepting your body because that little but huge step is the transformation of everything; eat food that nurture your body because your body is wiser than you think, so don’t underestimate it, try to exercise because you live in a vehicle that deserves to be moved, so love it.

Be aware that there will normally be a story behind every food you want to eat; remember you are not what you eat, you eat what you believe you need, so don’t let your body absorb anything it doesn’t deserve, remember that having a healthy body is a decision that can only come from you, and only you, have the power to transfom it.

Love yourself,
Shary ChavLó ∞

[1] https://www.vocabulary.com/dictionary/archetype