I find incredible that since we were children we had the concern to become “someone”, and we played the role of having a profession so we could feel adults for a moment and made something funny of that world. 

I don’t know if you had the experience that when you grew up, you decided to study a degree according to your capacities, talents and maybe you chose the one that was more popular at the moment, but when you entered to the work environment, it wasn’t related with what you studied. In my case, I studied the Communication Sciences degree and my work experience was based on the marketing and tourism areas; nonetheless, the surprise that life gave me was taking me to a different path to start my profession as a life coach. 

In the process of formalizing myself in the spiritual career I’ve faced the most complex attribute Universe has that’s patience, something that’s not conditioned by time nor control because the only way patience seems threatened is with the excess of control we constantly excercise as human beings; have in mind that our reptilian brain will always feel intimidated by the idea of “when is it going to occur?”, due to its primitive consciousness needs to survive first and it can’t be patient. 

Patience is the capacity we all have to accept the circumstances of life the way they are without wanting them to change according to our expectations; being patient doesn’t mean that we have to endure challenging and destructive situations because that’s thinking with our competitive mind that tells us the more we withstand, the better will be reward. 

“Patience is not simply the ability to wait, it’s how we behave while we’re waiting.”

Joyce Meyer.

By nature life contains its additions, but its function doesn’t have anything to do with the time it takes us to reach the purpose we want but in how we decide to live the present moment because reaching a goal, is a natural phase of merit; life’s about the intelectual, emotional and spiritual capacity with which we perceive everything surrounging us, knowing that the only process we have is to live here and now. 

Like I’ve told you before, we all have an egocentric mind that’s afraid of the non-existence that’s why it brings us back to the past even though it generates us pain or conditions us to the future so it can prevents us from being in it; and our ego does it ‘cause within its instintive function knows that there’s an ending and when that process comes, its mission will no longer have any meaning; that feeling of fear, makes us submit to destructive relationships and situations as long as we don’t face the fear of the breakdown or the pain that loneliness causes, that unconscious fear make us run and choose experiences by need but not from consciousness. 

Have in mind that since you were a child, you were educated to live a robotic life in which there’s only time, therefore, it’s impossible for you to make pauses in order to discover what’s happening with your life and decide to make other decisions that can help you to form another fate because for the collective it’s more important that you consume time and ensalve to it before you learn how to live on your own way. 

The way our mind acts in a destructive relationship is that it makes us believe that we have to be patient before the physical, emotional and psychological abuse because for the ego’s fear, recognizing that there isn’t love in a relationship, implies to live the loss that’ll take us to pain; that’s why the ego is patient with the conflict but it’s not tolerant with the solution; it’s important that you understand that the patience you show in a relationship isn’t related to the violence you tolerate, that’s a cruel lie your head’s telling you so you don’t make an assertive decision; likewise, being patient to change the other will lead you to a self-deception because the other will never change for you, ‘cause reality is showing you that the only change you can generate, will possibly imply breaking a relationship that’s not working anymore because when there isn’t peace in a situation there isn’t an inch of patience. 

Remember that in any kind of relationship, patience is one of the bases that’ll hold it together because its function derives from love and when there’s conscious love, by consequence, there is a patient union; the same, that’s not determined by the change of the other, instead it allows its members to change in a individual way, so they can accept what they’re living with emotional maturity. 

The control you believe you need to make so that everything in your life turns out perfectly, will take you to create a life full of stress and anxiety , just remember that life feels easier when you release what anguishes you and stop being patient to what makes you feel tormented; when you allow to be patient with yourself and learn how to reconcile with the time that your mind is saying, you’ll stop punishing yourself because you’re not going further because deep inside of you, you know that you are where you need to be because you have the necessary tools to exist; therefore, you don’t need more. 

If you’re starting a project, a relationship or a mission, stop putting thoughts related to time because you’ll end up advancing the clock that’s impossible to change and the result will frustrate you; remember that everything in life follows a chronological line that makes you believe that behind the fear, there’s a solution which invites you to trust that the process is perfect; learning to be patient means winning the war against intolerance, lacking, expectations and demandings because there’s nothing more expensive in life than turning you away from the peace you deserve; so before giving your patience to situations or relationships that doesn’t worth it, it’s better if you give that patience to yourlself, ‘cause that’s when you’ll realize that there’s nothing more extraordinary than your present; therefore, it’s worth to live it. 

Stay here and live now, Shary ChavLó ∞