I’m passing through a moment where I feel I have to take a couple of decisions that will change the direction of my life; maybe this has happened to you when you don’t know what to do or which path to choose; normally we want that our processes to be easy or without any complication, and I’ll tell you something, usually it’s like that, but what opposses, is our resistance to accept that things are not always the way we want.

The resistance is bonded to our control that lives submitted to the non-acceptance processes we experience; the more resistance there is, the greater block we will face to get to the solution.

Why do we resist? We resist because since we were children we have been lead to follow a system that limited our freedom; since we were around 6 years old, our preparation for the adult life started; we got up early to arrive to a classroom that was the archetype of a future office we couldn’t leave until luch time; we’ve been prepared for the stress chapters that homework and exams caused us; thus passing another year so we can add it to our growth, do you think there’s any difference with the adult world?

Possibly you’re someone who think there’s difference between an adult and a child, because children don’t earn any money by themselves because they depend of their parents; I think that excuse is part of a lie we tell to ourselves for the resistance of not accepting that we are still conditioned by the same system; maybe you don’t depend of your parents anymore, but you depend from the person you’ve chosen to weave his/her dreams; then, where’s your freedom?

What would happen if I tell you that all that system must be transformed? Maybe part of the society will resist because it’ll believe that’s impossible to change a system that has “worked” for us for thousands of years; that will take us to a collective resistance that will make us stay in the same place instead of generating a transcendental change.

Change is never painful
only resistance to change is painful.

Buda.

On one hand, I try to understand that we live in that resistance because we are still oriented by the anxiety that prevents us from connecting with the abundance of time; we don’t have time because for the system that controls us it’s more important to anticipate for the Christmas holiday instead of connecting with the present and helping you to understand that your time is more valuable that the one that doesn’t exist yet; we’re still oriented by the feelings of terror that make us believe that the evil only lives on the outside and that, makes us act on the defensive because that system is not worried about you having space to integrate the others because the more you are away from yourself, more away you’ll be to connect with everything that makes you feel good; that’s the result of our resistance and the absolute denial of everything.  

When we go through a situation in our life the first thing that’s activated on us is our resistance that controls us to act from the strenght and not from surrender.

Surrender is not related to failure but with our highest level of consciousness, the same that helps us to drop everything that causes us pain and everything that takes away our self-peace. That surrender talks about your capacity of loving yourself because as long as you love yourself you won’t have the need to please others nor will you have the need to be right above all, because you’ll be in that place where you give yourself permission to accept the others because you have already achieved to accept yourself.

Our resistance is more notorious in a couple’s relationship, because we always want to change the other the way we want him/her to be because on that need to be right we positionate believing that “only I’m right and the other is wrong” that, will make us refuse to all the differences the other has; therefore, if there’s rejectment, there won’t be any solution because you’re looking for the solution from a mutual resistance.

Like I told you, I’m thinking about the decisions I have to take and allow myself to do it with consciousness; remember that we’re always creating  and it’s important to do it awaken; on that choice, I’m allowing myself to listen what I want and I’m not paying attention to my mind that resists to change its beliefs and insists on taking control of the situation; remember that thoughts are only that, so give yourself the opportunity to listen what is what you want and allow yourself to know how it feels to take that decision and if you feel peace when you’re taking it, then you’re not resisting, you’re accepting what’s best for you.

We’re in a system that has taught us how to control and that control is related to the extreme strenght; the control is just a system that beyond giving you power takes it away from you; so accept that things have an order and have in mind that you won’t take anything with you; remember that’s you in this present moment and only you know in which person you’re deciding to become and if you resist to not seeing beyond who you are; then, you’re condemning yourself to your own resistance; the same that’ll keep limiting you to be free from all that conditioning system.

Be free;
Shary ChavLó ∞