Drugs have accompanied man since his inception, their purpose was for medicinal remedies or possibly for some rituals depending on the culture, likewise for recreational purposes, nevertheless their use have diversified.

Drugs provide multiple and complex effects; they go directly into the central nervous system and produce different stimulating effects that can disturb the perception of  reality or provoke hallucinations that impact in the conscious state of the person who consumes them.

I’m sure that much of our conflicts come from the emotions we have prohibited to feel so we won’t be qualified as “bad people”, this provoked those emotions stayed repressed in our unconscious; like I’ve told you before, our programming originates since our childhood and it refers to the incomprehension of our emotional states and the lacking of love from the fundamental pillars of our development that are our parents.

Do parents are the cause why we use drugs? They are not, they just carry an information in their system that unconsciously inherited you; this information can be a family tree full of addictions where the son or daughter is who’s carrying the conflicts of a not healed family tree.

Time ago I talked you about the types of parents and I told you that we idealize our progenitors and we see our mother as the best woman and our father as the hero of our life, that has caused we distort reality of who they really are, because overprotective parents like those absent parents, imprinted deep wounds on us, on one side, overprotective parents took freedom and autonomy away from us, causing that we in the future, to look for substances that connect us with a state of freedom that we couldn’t get in our childhood; on the other hand, absent parents provoked deep prints of abandonment  that makes possible for us in the future, to go in search of all kind of drugs to connect with the happiness and companionship we couldn’t feel in an early age.

I have similar family trees, this means that from my mother’s and father’s side the addiction to alcoholism exists, despite I’ve tasted it I don’t do it frequently and I’ve never felt the curiosity of tasting any kind of drug; in my journey as a coach I’ve had the opportunity to treat some people who have had consumed them and most of them have told me they use drugs because they help them to connect with happiness and joy and to see things simpler, thus, achieve states that in their reality were impossible to get; I’ve realized that the common denominator of those people was that they came from a violent and destructive family circle.

One one side, cocaine produces an exaltation on the mood of the person because it takes her/him to states of euphoria to make tasks in a faster way; likewise, blood preasure and heart rate increase for the energy and the “high” they feel; those consumers can come from absent parents or parents that ignored their children, that originated a deep print of abandonment and loneliness; for this reason, cocaine avoids them to connect with the rejectment they feel and help them handle the feeling of repulsion towards their father, in that way, cocaine takes away the pain they experience for not feeling loved, nevertheless, the sensation cocaine gives them, helps them to express what they don’t dare to say when they’re aware; but in reality, the true reason they consume can come from the rejectment they feel towards their true self

Heroine allows that the brain to generate huge amounts of endorphine and provokes in the body an enormous pleasure of freedom; those consumers can come from demanding parents; parents that possibly had a very poor childhood and they were more worried for giving “material benefits to their children” instead of encouraging “a healthy inner self”; also, parents who were very strict with their children and made them believe they had to be perfect, reason why, they look for heroine to obtain an intense sensation of freedom that will prevent them to enter in contact with that possible frustration they feel of not feeling valuable enough for who they are, because unconsciously, they’re still believing they’re a nobody in life because no matter how hard they try they’ll never be what the others expect; therefore, they believe they defraud others;  but in reality, the true reason of their consume can come from the huge lack of self-acceptance and a lack of self-esteem.

Marihuana or cannabis stimulates the senses giving a huge sensation of relaxation; this drug is the most common because its effects are not as bad as those of the others drugs, even studies have confirmed that cannabis is less noxious than cigarette because of its components; people who use to consume it can come from an absent mother or father; reason why, marihuana helps them to connect with themselves and go in the search of their true-self; but in reality, the true cause they consume can come from their high levels of control and demand towards themselves.

Cigarette has a chemical composition of 7000 substances that are incorporated during its elaboration; according to studies almost one billion of people around the world light a cigarette every day; nonetheless, this dependency can come from the conscious or unconscious attachement to the mother and every inhalation can refer to the need of taking air to feel free; but if their dependency is strong it’s because consumers believe they feel more protected by their mother; but in reality, the true cause can come from an enormous insecurity of feeling independent.

Alcohol is an stimulating substance which affects the capacity of self-control because of the disinhibition and exaltation this generates in the Central Nervous System; people with this addiction can come from overprotective parents or deeply destroyed homes where violence was the daily bread and love was practically nonexistent; people who drink usually do it because in that way they avoid the feeling of the indifference of their parents and unconsciously that’s the way they look to harm themselves because they feel unworthy, that’s why, they see alcohol as a momentary company to fill the lack of affection, but in reality, the true cause can come from the fear of finding themselves and discover they’ve never loved themselves.

It’s no measure of health to be well adjusted
to a profoundly sick society.

Jiddu Krishnamurti.

What I want to tell you with all of this is that human beings are still under conditioning rules to be able to belong to an unattainable environment because we have to be focus in unrealistic standards of beauty to have value; we have to be materially complete to belong to “classy” circles or we need to look like the other so in that way we can have their approval; all of that is part of a collective addiction that makes us relationate with ourselves from a side of dependency and not from a side freedom.

All this refers that all of us are addicts, addicts to the same system that keeps us believing that human natural states  like love, happiness, peace can only be found in the outside, that’s why we’re in co-dependent relationships that make us feel unworthy because we believe we are not valuable enough to be with someone who values us; we’re still addicts to suffering because we believe we have to fight to get things done; we’re addicted to the past and being anxious about the future; we’re addicted to swear in the name of god cheering with wine; we’re addicted to not trust in ourselves, because we feel we don’t deserve better; we’re an addict society to passive agressive violence that makes us live and behave in that way and we see it as normal and correct; we’re addict to judgement and condemnation because we adopt the role of perfects and impeccables; this means its not necessary to take any drug to consider us addicts, because we’re already undeclared addicts.

Probably you also have absent or demanding parents or you were part of a destructive family and maybe any of that has taken you to consume drugs, but maybe you’ve chosen experiences of dependency with destructive relationships or possibly you’ve chosen to be the silent victim of your life, if you find those kind of addictions in you, please don’t judge yourself either condemn those who have decided to go on the path of drugs because they also have wounds like yours; its just that the depth of those wounds has been such that they need to expulse them from their system through the consume; so don’t label them as: “drug addicts”, “sick”, “bad people”, because remember that every one acts according to how we feel, the most lovely thing you can do is observe compassionately at yourself, so with that same equality you can look at the others and understand that maybe they’re not ready to look and love themselves yet.

The drugs use is a conflict that has exacerbated with time and it won’t end saying the other: “don’t use drugs” or “drugs are bad”, because all dependency comes from a lack of affect and a lack of self-love, and these heal when you look, accept and love yourself the way you are, because there’s not worst addiction like the one that makes you think your story is your sentence instead of seeing it as your opportunity to do things right.

You’re free,
Shary ChavLó.

 

 

Information: https://www.drugabuse.gov/