My mother was born in a family of ten members, six sisters, two brothers and of course her parents; according to what she has told me, living with six women almost of the same age as her was a big challenge; on one side, her mother was always working on the household chores and her father was absent most of the time due to his alcoholism.

Of course my mother grew up, got married and had my sister and I; nonetheless, despite she loves us, she would’ve loved to have a son, why do you think this is?  

Remember that human beings will always go in search of what we believe we needed and unconsciously we resonate with those absent experiences to feel balance; everything we learn from our mother and father is the memory that lives active in ourselves in order to create our way of living.

As a child I hardly had a connection with my mother because she was dedicated to work, my sister and I stayed with our nanny, her name was Francisca and we named her Francis; I remember her as a hardworking woman as my mom and she was always worried about me and my sister’s needs; nevertheless, growing up without the company of my mother but in the company of a symbolic mother, made me believe that women have just two options in life: work or take care of the children.

Inside our inseparable femenine collective remains the need of finding the ideal man with whom we can make a family, in that search we go with all those family and social patterns that have imposed us for being women; those patterns are the beliefs that have made us think our presence is incomplete and we need someone who completes us.

“We must tell girls that
their voices are important”.

Malala Yousafzai

The United Nations confirmed that in 2017, 87 thousand women were murdered around the world, ensuring that the most dangerous place for a woman is her own home.  

Women have the habit of being permissive because since our grandmother’s generation, they were raised with a chauvinist consciousness; the same that took them to endure many abuses, and your mother was witness of them and repeated these with their couples and those agressions were inherited to you without your notice. Being permissive doesn’t refer to women who allow to be beaten or insulted by their couples, but to the women that constantly attract experiences lacking of love and consciousness.

Have in mind that human beings are very ancient, our soul already contains and old imformation, this means that several times we have been women and in all those experiences we have experienced how to be one.

The church is one of the most dominant powers; it was from the birth of religion that societies started to separate according to their divine beliefs; nonetheless, the religious system has conditioned the gender division and until today, has made us believe that the God of history is composed of an entirely masculine energy; leaving woman as a simple extension that comes from the man’s rib.

On those religious beliefs was said that God put Adam and Eve on the Garden of Eden, the story claims that Eve was the one who took the forbidden fruit from the tree of knowledge of good and evil and it was because of her, that the “original sin” was committed. If we since our creation have been lead to believe that we’re the guilty gender, imagine the informative weight we’ve had since generations, this made us attract experiences that have kept us away from empowering ourselves in a real and lovely way, that’s why there’s still the belief that women can’t ambition great jobs without first having been in a man’s bed to get where they are.

Long time ago I felt very conditioned about my physical, I thought that I had to have a lovely face to be liked, I had to look pretty to be accepted and I had to be in fashion so I could be applauded; that’s why, I believe that loving ourselves is an heroic act because this implies to break with all those conditionings of perfection. I want you to know that I have worked on myself and I’m still doing it to forgive me for not fitting in the requirements the system demands; a system that’s very small compared with our huge potential; reason why I have taken the next decision and attitude: “I don’t care how I look and what do people think about me, today I have decided to feel good with myself and loving myself unconditionally because nobody will do it better than me, so I choose to feel free.”

One of the biggest mistakes women make, is comparing with other women, this represents wishing a place that doesn’t belong to us and we abandon the most important space that’s where we are, nobody can fill that place as successfully as you, so why do you leave yourself?

I want you to remember that our most important gift is creation, this means that we have to take responsability of our own creations, the same that are supported on the beliefs that we are less valuable, those unconscious beliefs have made us create violence, agression, hate, revenge, envy etc., believing that’s what we deserve to experience; and if we keep choosing the role of the victim we’ll keep attracting the perfect aggressor who completes the story we assume as true.

Never forget that you’re a great woman, so if you are experincing an abuse, please speak loudly, because being permissive has taken us to irreparable tragedies; believe me there’s no job, family circle, relationships or couples that have the right to humiliate you nor make you feel less for how you look, think, wear or how much you weight because your silence is accepting the same conditionings those generations created because they didn’t speak either; be conscious that you’re worthy of love and as long as you connect with that truth, all in your life will be transformed for the better and best.

The universe created us to be here, this means that in order to create us had to use its femenine essence, so give yourself that great value and walk with that beautiful energy by your hand; and from now on, take away from your mind that you have to look pretty to be liked or to be loved; a woman sure of herself knows what she must have by her side because she’s conscious about the environment she deserves and faithfully believes that the love living within her is so valuable that attracts relationships where she feels immensely loved.

You’re incredible, Shary ChavLó ∞