When you were kid I’m sure you were asked what did you want to be when you grew up? Possibly in your answers was to be a teacher, doctor, pilot, actor or simply you didn’t know. And as you grew up all that vanished from your mind, because you started school and all your energy was focused on standing out and on being the best student so you could become the best of the class.

I remember when I was in primary school I had a very strict teacher; she used to tell us that if we didn’t get good grades it was because probably we wanted to be part of the “failed people”; when I didn’t understand a couple of subjects my average decreased, my punishment was to stay in the classroom without lunch until I understood the subjects I needed to learn; I remember her behaviour with the others was based on humiliation with the justification that those actions would bring out the best of us.

For a long time I asked myself with fear what meant to be a failed person? Until I understood that being a failed person was belong to the same system of waking up,

going to work, and get back home to finally rest forgetting about my life and myself, which I did for a very long time and I realized that her words were like a prophecy to me because I understood that I didn’t want to be part of the failed people; what I wanted to do was to fulfill my dream of reaching people’s hearts, and today I’m doing what I do the best I can, sharing my experience with you hoping that it can serve you for your growth and your personal encounter. So now, I’m sure this teacher I had, was one of the best teachers who taught me that being a “failed woman”, was turning off my dreams and I was forgetting about them.

Success is just a journey, not a fate.

Bell Sweetland.

We all want to be succesful, but like I’ve always said, let’s go beyond those conditionings that we’ve believed from the others and ask yourself: What’s to be successful for you? If your answer is about having money then do this: pull out from your wallet any dollar…when you have it you’re already holding your success, therefore, finally you have what you’ve always wanted; if your answer is to achieve your dreams then, what are you doing to accomplish them?; if your answer is to be happy, please look for another type of success because if you’re not happy with what you have today it’ll never be enough to complete your happiness; if your success is about being recognized because you’re waiting the other’s admiration that’s not going to happen because the most important person that’s you, doesn’t feel valuable enough to recognize itself; if being successful for you is to be famous, famous to whom and why? You now can realize, that’s important to know what we want and from there, create it.

 

 

All our concepts about success refer to become someone, but what you haven’t been told is that you already are and that success is just a consequence of our actions, but like I told you, we’re so conditioned on believing that success is to be important so in that way our life has worth, this is the reason why success is just an ilusion that feeds from the particules of time, the one you say you don’t have because you’re too busy working for someone else’s dreams while you generate success or better said, money.

I want to tell you that success is directly proportional to failure, because if failure didn’t exist there wouldn’t be the creation of new paths to achieve what you’ve been looking for, success is not a place you have to reach, because it comes from a state that comes from yourself, that state is found in your personal trust oriented from your own power.

Last week I talked you about father and I told you that he was bonded to the relationship we have with success because our father gives us the will to carry out what we have created; let’s remember that success is about the culmination of our projects and our parents are fundamental keys to achieve success; but what happens if mom and dad just congratulated us the “A’s” we got at school or sometimes they didn’t do it because it came as part of our obligation, of course, failing was reason enough to be punished because that was “bad”.

What do you think stayed in our unconscious? Only that the “A” refers to success and the grades alien to excellence are for failed people, therefore in our adult life having mistakes is the worst of the sins because it represents the guilt that I’ll manifest with self-punishment without the intervention of forgiveness because in my rejectment wound I’m not being recognized and that confronts me because this pushes me away from what the others say it’s correct.

In all those dysfuctions we live in, we’ve believed that success is only accomplished by few people or that it’s reduced to a gender, therefore, this makes us feel we’re not worthy of success, of course we think we don’t deserve it and when this happens, the cancer of success caused by the envy, resentment, criticism, judgement, blind us, and we start creating our own definition of success wanting what the others have, but in reality it’s because we don’t feel capable of obtaining it by ourselves, maybe you’ll have it one day but at the expense of what and whom?

I ask you to be aware of what’s to be successful for you because if being successful is stepping on others then you’re in the wrong path; please don’t limit yourself believing that you’ll be in your best moment when you finally “be someone”, much less think that if the other is successful it’s because s/he is taking you away what’s yours, remember this universe has abundance for all of us and there’s infinitely more left for you.

Please that your purpose of success doesn’t be to “important for the others” because you didn’t come to the world to be just a profession; create your success through your best conscious states which are love and compassion, because in that way you won’t achieve just for you, but you’ll have left a trace in the consciousness of others thus, we’ll allow this world progress.

Have in mind that happiness and love don’t come when you finally be what you’re yearning for, because there’s not bigger failure than stop being happy and deprive the others from it, independently of the circumstances on which you find yourself, be happy, because this day won’t return to your life; you’ll have many opportunities to be successful as a tomorrow’s gift, but your natural state of happiness goes away with the hours of a day like today, ones that won’t come back again.

Please trust in yourself and believe that you’re capable to achieve everything you propose yourself because within you are all the talents and capacities you never allow yourself to feed because you followed a system that was already created. It’s moment of ulearning so you can start learning that self-love is a fundamental key to achieve what we already are and when you get to that point of awakening, work hard, be constant, have the will and keep sowing because the harvest that’s for you comes at the right and suitable moment; thinking like this, I can assure you that everything you do you’ll take it to culmination because by that time you’ll be more aware that success doesn’t come in the future because you have success here and now, so decide to walk with success in the mind, humility on the shoulders and certainty on the hands, and in that way, you’ll materialize what you really came to do to the world that’s to be happy and full, doing what you love and what you feel passionate for.

You’re successful,
Shary ChavLó.