Every new year, within our most important wishes is finding “the love of our life”, a person who can understand me, love me, spoil me, take care of me and be crazy about me.

What’s a soulmate? The soul is the connection between the Universe and your body; it’s in the soul’s consciousness to transcend certain experiences to reach its fullest state that’s vibrate from unconditional love; remember that love is the highest level of our consciousness and when we get there, that’s when we find people with the same vibration.

Soulmates can only contribute from that place, we say ‘soulmate’ because to find each other, you went through a similar process to finally reach that maximum state; this means that soul learned to love itself from the most dependant or destructive places; understood how to be free after toxic relationships that taught it how to choose with awareness; achieved to accept that the fundamental key of any relationship is to love with detachment and learned how to deal with it without any resistance, learned that love is a state of the present that doesn’t make you fall nor dream but root yourself on the present and makes you share; all of this means that the soulmate is the one that makes us contribute with responsability, individuality, consciousness, detachment, compassion and despite of knowing itself as a free consciousness when is next to someone, it  always feels in unity.

A soulmate can come in any human body because for it, love doesn’t judge nor conditions; remember that we are blindly mentalized that love only can be given by other person who serves as our other half, a person who calls us all the time, gives us presents, pays us everything, takes care of us, makes us happy etc., when those requirements cover our mind, from there we are conditioning and we stop vibrating with the consciousness of a soulmate, because unconsciously we are wishing whom to attach so that person can give us everything we deny to ourselves thus, our freedom ends.

“Really important meetings are planned by the soulslong before the bodies see each other”.


Paulo Coelho.

How do you know if you are next to your soulmate? When you look at him/her you know s/he doesn’t belong to you because you visualize him/her as a great company, the past nor the future exist to love each other because both of you have decided to do it form the present; you don’t feel any fear of being yourself before his/her presence because you know that none of you needs to change to be liked but instead accept each other the way you are; everything s/he thinks, says and does helps you grow, so both of you keep evolving from constructive places; you’re next to your soulmate when that person helps you to connect with your internal peace; when you are next to that person you finally understand that s/he is not that being you idealized but the one you contribute to from your human imperfection; thus, decide to love each other without questioning.

If you are with a person and believe that is your soulmate ask yourself, why do you believe it? If in your answers are these reasons: because it makes me happy, because I’m so in love, because s/he is perfect, because finally I belong to someone, because s/he is not like the others, because life is finally on my side, because you always want to be next to him/her, because it’s different when s/he is with you than with his/her friends etc., I’m afraid to tell you that you’re not with your soulmate; you’re next to that person who perfectly fits in your unconscious program and that you have chosen him/her to heal your dysfunctions so in that way, helped you to break with all those mistaken beliefs that you have made about love.

Remember that we’re usually attracted to people who will challenge us in the deepest ways until we wake up; when we are looking for a couple we do it according to the role our father had in our lives that’s because our father is the first love we meet; if we had a father who abandoned, hurt, violated, humiliated us etc., our programming relies on that pattern and we’ll look in an unconscious way someone with whom we can repeat what we silently keep inside, until we do consciousness about it, thus healing; that’s something I call “glue programs” which, drive us to perfeclty complement with the dysfunctions of the other without notice, making us believe that’s what we deserve.  

If you are an introverted person and you are dating an extroverted person, both are healing from your dualities to integrate each other; if you are a person who’s always saving money possibly you’ll be with a person who spends all the money because that person is teaching you to release that control without any fear; if you are a very romantic person and you are next to a cold person, that program is teaching you to have balance with the love you give; that’s the purpose of the programs, complement each other to generate a balance that can heal both sides; with the aim that you can consciously evolve and in other time of your life, you can attract someone with whom you don’t necessarily have to reflect because you accept yourself unconditionally, that’s when you’ll attract your soulmate, the one who accepts and loves itself the same way.

I want to tell you that by nature, we all want to be with someone with whom to share, but if you keep looking with that lack of love, I can assure you that you’ll find him/her but you won’t find the person that lives in the illusion of your mind but instead you’ll be with that person who challenges you, defies you, questions you or transforms you and maybe a person who takes away your peace, because deep inside your soul, you want to learn and evolve in that way, so one day or maybe in another life your soul achieves to meet the soulmate that’s looking for the same as you that’s be next to someone without needing each other because  both of you are disposed to love each other the way you are.

Wake up, Shary ChavLó ∞