Falling in love has always been between our dreamed purposes ‘cause falling for someone is and will be the process that’ll help us to connect with happiness and is at this point, when the mind will create illusions instead of realities; but when that crush comes to an end, love is the only thing that remains so we can reconcile with the things that hurt and confront us about ourselves. 

Fidelity is one of the characteristics we look in the others ‘cause through it, we build a bond called compromise, nevertheless, when one of the parties that converge in a relationship doesn’t fulfill the promises that were based on the expectations of how things should be, our dual mind defines the act as betrayal and from there, the union starts to break. 

Let’s remember that human relationships are the most complex exchanges we have to experience, ‘cause thanks to them we have the possibility to know ourselves and it’s the other person who will teach us the obstacles we put in the search of our self-love; and most of all, they’ll teach us how much we can betray ourselves, ‘cause our couple is and will be the reflection of that duality we constantly reject. 

What’s treason? In our need for everything to be perfect, we face our control wound which has fear to feel betrayed; a couple of times I’ve talked to you about Jesus of Nazareth and you know that before I write about any topic that involves religious aspects, I put respect in the middle ‘cause I believe that each one of us decide what to believe in order to feel hope; when I’ve talked you about Yeshua I’ve told you that I don’t believe the idea of the martyr who suffered for the sins of humanity, instead I’m faithful to the great master who came to teach us how to connect with the God that can only exist in oneself; a human being whose consciousness was evolved and for this reason he was murdered. 

Inside Jesus’ story, we’ve been lead to believe that the beginning of duality starts with Judas betrayal; according to the story, Judas betrayed Jesus with the members of the Sanhedrin in exchange for thirty coins and in his regret he later commited suicide; nonetheless, I question this story ‘cause in our habit and need to find the victim and the aggressor to create the novel of the bad and good; I guess that in this case, Jesus was the victim but letting Jesus in that role where nothing can change, it’s like forgetting his true mission ‘cause inside his great consciousness, was impossible that he could attract people who couldn’t vibrate from love; so my opinion is as it follows:

Jesus was totally connected with the divinity and he knew the promise he made with humanity and the pact he had made with death; therefore, he never allowed himself to betray his mission for fear; so he dedicated part of his life to preach God’s words to all those who were still asleep; he created a community of 12 apostles he prepared with his divine knowledge; therefore, if we reflect on the story; imagine that if his disciples had been arrested they would have died alongside him; by consequence, his mission would have been forgotten and his death would have been in vain; perhaps Jesus needed someone who gave him away in order to fulfill his destiny and allow that his presence could leave a mark in humanity. 

If we transfer this story in our relationships, you’ll see that we’re always looking for the Judas in our life and in turn, we’re playing the same role; I mean that all of us are traitors and we’ll be betrayed at some point in our life; let’s suppose that you’re in a relationship that vibrates from lacking, a union where there are fights, agression, infidelity, humilliation and pain but none of you dare to leave each other for the fear you both have about being independent; therefore, both of you prefer to betray your self-love before assuming that you can’t be together anymore; it’s the same, if you are in a job where you use complaint instead of love, that’s betraying your happiness while you attract a work environment that reminds you how much you betray yourself; being in love of your family, social and cultural patterns that ensalve you through disease, singleness, violence, abandonment, rejectment, lies, racism etc., it’s because something in you, prefers to betray his/her autonomy and freedom before stop belonging to a clan that forces you to repeat the system in order to feel part of a family or a society. 

Treason is a human action that we all commit at some point in our lives; but it’s very hard for us to assume our humanity ‘cause we’re used to project the unconscious guilt; ‘cause according to catholic religion, everything is for our grievous fault; the same that we feel by not assuming that treason is an act that involves our free will, which is the option we have to choose how to think and feel in order to manifest, but by not taking responsability of who we are, we get caught in our beliefs; the ones, that don’t accept the freedom the others have to choose how they want to be; ‘cause for our mind, there’s no greater betrayal than the freedom of others. 

Only when there’s trust, treason can exist; but we confuse that trust as the personal power we give to the others and when the others act from their freedom, our empowerement seems hurt ‘cause there’s no much left of it to forgive ourselves, forgive the others, accept and understand the situation ‘cause it’s easier to blame someone as traitor before looking at what we have caused; I understand the pain that comes implicit in the betrayal but I think that there’s no greater pain than abandon oneself in the situations or experiences that challenge us the most, and there’s no worse betrayal than realize the places where there’s no love at all, and prefer to stay there waiting to see if someday that person is going to love us; so we can finally have our happy ending. 

Love yourself, Shary ChavLó ∞