For the collective, teaching the girls to play with dolls is necessary for the role they’ll play as future mothers; despite that the current generations are looking for freedom from those conditionings that are based on just protecting a home; somehow we’re still being guided by the fear who talks to us through the voice of loneliness and tells us how difficult it’s to be with oneself.

Currently, we’ve created applications to connect with the opposite sex and feel again the hope that someone can love us; that need is heavier than the unconscious program the other has with whom we’ll have to deal only to be with someone, this make us believe that we’re finally achieving the unconscious contract of being next to a person who completes us.

Why do we want a better half? Remember that human beings are dual, on those polarities so characteristic of us, we lean only in one which drives us to a separation consciousness that’ll naturally look for balance; and the polarity we don’t integrate, we’ll attract it through a “better half” that tends to be dysfunctional, because that half feels incomplete, the same way you feel and you’ll face challenges where you’ll teach each other how to appreciate the balance that can only come from your interior.

“Those who feel incomplete inside, are voracious
of the external things, they believe that accumulate is to be.”

Alejandro Jodorowsky .

All the people with whom we are today, live suspended in some unconscious code, it doesn’t matter if we run into them a few minutes or they stay the rest of our lives, each one of them has a purpose that’ll allow you to evolve as human being or will leave you in a painful memory that won’t let you move forward.

Why are we programmed? The unconscious programs are the instructions that were implanted in the womb, that helped us to follow certain adaptation models so in that way, we could identify inside a social, religious, loving, cultural and racial group in order to continue with the prefabricated truth of a system that wants to see you with someone so you can be happy, without letting you know that your happiness isn’t on the other’s heart.

Normally when we go in the search of a couple, we want to find it according to the stereotype imposed in our mind, but then comes a person with whom we thought we never could be with, and this happens because that person wasn’t looked by your mind, but it was your unconscious lacking who found him/her.

Have in mind that the choices we have made in relation to the couple will be determined by the relationship we had with our progenitor of the opposite sex, from there, our unconscious will be encoded with a personal program that’ll be decoded throughout our lives through the relationships with whom we interact.

If you had absent parents, your program will be to feel attracted towards a person much older than you in order to accomplish the maternal or paternal absence; on the other hand, the person with whom you could be with, will have the unconscious program of a child that assumed the role of a mother or father at an early age and in that resonance s/he will choose you as his/her child of whom s/he can be responsible and in that way, the program of both will be perfectly fulfilled.

If you had unfaithful parents, for loyalty to that program you’ll look for couples with the same dysfunction, possibly people who’ll have difficulties relating with commitment  because they came from a fragmented family core where the parents never communicated with each other; therefore, those parents didn’t communicate with their son or daughter, this represents that this person will dissociate from any relationship that implies loyalty and fidelity.  

If you had parents who asked you to be the intermediary between both of them and you always received instructions such as: “tell your mother this”, tell you father that” then you were programmed with the chip to satisfy the needs of others before attending yours first and that’s why, you’ll choose couples that only know how to receive but they won’t be able to give you; because the person that’ll come to you, won’t know how to correspond you because within his/her program, his/her parents treated him/her with an excesive overprotection that prevented him/her to connect with the giving and receiving flow, that’s why you’ll both resonate perfectly and maybe have a life together in order to accomplish the mission of this mutual program that completes each other.

Have in mind that our relationships will be sought according to the concept we have given to love, that’s why we conceptualize it and go after it based on a programmed memory which avoids our connection with it as a present reality.

According to studies marriages decreased and divorces increased, I’m certain that this is happening because those separation and loneliness processes help us to reconnect with our self-presence and allows us to be with oneself again, and if we look this kind of experiences is to understand that if we are alone, it’s because we need to appreciate the totality of who we are, thus we meet someone that feels complete with or without anyone.  

I want you to know that if you are in a relationship that’s taking you to the most challenging places, beyond seeing that person as your enemy, observe what s/he came to teach you, because the discomfort you feel talks about the compatibility of those programs that are preventing both of you to connect with an emotional and couple stability, remember that in order to understand what you’re living it’s about looking the cause that took you to the place you’re today.

Take out of your mind that you need someone to be happy because that condition devalues you and makes you feel that your presence is unworthy because you believe you need the other to complete you; I can assure you that you are a wonderful company and anyone will be very lucky to be with you, but if you don’t see and believe this about yourself, then your true relationships will be those programs that’ll blind you for the rest of your life.

Wake up, Shary ChavLó ∞